In the past when I heard the phrase “those are fighting words,” I would look carefully at the face and mannerisms of the person who said it, so that I could figure out how to interpret the next words they might say. Sometimes these words were spoken teasingly like when people debated whether Pepsi or Coke was the better cola drink. Just to settle this question before we continue, Pepsi is hands-down my favorite. The sweeter the better! 😉

But back to the phrase “those are fighting words,” sometimes this can stir up arguments and disagreements that are more serious in nature than a favorite soft drink. Sometimes it is used during political or religious disagreements. However, this summer, “those are fighting words” brought new meaning to me.

At the beginning of summer, Proverbs 31 Ministries Online Bible Study launched their summer book club with the book Fighting Words by Ellie Holcomb. Instead of using our own thoughts and opinions to silence the lies of our true enemy Satan, Ellie shares 100 days of devotions that she uses to fight back against the darkness of Satan. With only 5-8 minutes a day, she helps us think about a verse or a small passage of scripture in an unique way.  Next, she helps us apply this truth to demolish the lies that Satan uses to discourage us or lead us off track.

To find your own fighting words:

  1.  The first step is to find a promise that matches the problem in your life that you are facing. 
  2. Once you find God’s specific word for you, and pray God’s truths directly about the situation you are struggling to overcome. 

Here’s an example of how I’m using Philippians 1:6 as I fight against Satan’s lies that I’m not doing enough or growing fast enough as I parent and disciple my children:


Please give me confidence that You who began this good work in Mackenzie, Juliana, Ethan, and Kaden’s lives will carry Your good work in their lives until You call them home to Heaven. More than I could dream or imagine, You work all things for good. Please give me eyes to see the small ways you are carrying out Your miraculous work in their lives each day.

In Jesus’ name,


By doing this, not only are you reminding yourself of God’s truths, but through this application you are storing His truths deeper inside your soul. His truths become more than just words on the pages of our Bible. His words become our thoughts, and then our thoughts become the words we speak. 

Instead of being discouraged by what appears to be slow growth, I am learning to confidently walk in faith, knowing God is the one who will carry out His good work in our children’s lives. The weight of raising children who love and honor Jesus doesn’t rest solely on our shoulders. Yes, we are doing everything we possibly can to lead them to the heart of God, but God is more powerful and loving than we can ever possibly become. He stands in the gap when our efforts do not appear enough.

Taking this strategy a bit further, the song “In Jesus Name” by Katy Nichole has become my “Fighting Song.” This spring, I began singing this song over our sensational child before he fell asleep. I changed the words a bit to fit the exact season he was walking through. I prayed in the name of authority, declaring blessings over his central nervous system. Believing that our Creator who designed his body knows exactly how to connect the right neural pathways to help him experience everyday joys that I used to take for granted. The incredible part of this step of faith to not only pray and sing these words, but to believe these words, too, is seeing the Lord answer these prayers in beautiful ways. Our child who used to cringe and hold his ears when we sang has started singing God’s truths in perfect pitch with the the most contagious grin on his face. 

I wonder if these lyrics might also become some of your fight words, too: 

I speak the name of all authority

Declaring blessings, every promise

He is faithful to keep

I speak the name no grave could ever hold

He is greater, He is stronger

He’s the God of possible

Friend, today, I speak the name of Jesus over you. Every hurdle and every trial, I am asking our God to move. Whatever you are facing, I encourage you to take hold of your own “Fighting Words” and listen to God’s truths above the noise around you. One mentor of mine once said, “what the mind thinks about, comes about.” Let’s be intentional to craft our words to build up our children and tear down Satan’s lies. Together we can believe God’s truths more than Satan’s twisted lies.

If you have a verse that the Lord has impressed upon your heart, please share in the comments, so we can add more fighting words to our attacks against Satan. Let’s begin each day with the confident expectation that God alone will carry out the good work in our children’s lives that He has already started. As Katy Nichole sings, “In the mighty name of Jesus, all things are possible.”

Link to Ellie Holcomb’s book Fighting Words and her song “Fighting Words

Link to Katy Nichole’s song “In Jesus Name” music video

2 responses to “My Fighting Words Blogpost #33”

  1. Kay Avatar

    “Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:”
    ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1‬:‭6‬ ‭KJV‬‬
    This verse reminds me that if it’s not good, God’s not finished working in my life and keeps me “fighting” on. 🙏

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  2. Kelcey Avatar

    Love this post! Thank you for encouraging us to find our fighting words! Can’t wait to check out this book, choose scripture for this season I am walking through, and start using them in my prayers!

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